Priorities funny how different people place different value on the different things and people in their life. Not all people have the same family values, enjoy a good book, listen to music ect. However, the bible makes it clear how we as Christians are supposed to prioritize our lives.
1. God
2. Spouse
3. Children
4. Home
5. Yourself
6. Outside the home
Starting with God is the only place to start the bible is filled with examples of "rising early" or having "quiet time" with the Lord. We need to make sure our spiritual tank is full before we try and take care of anyone or we will fall flat on our face. God is the only one who is able to help us love in the most pure unadulterated way. If we don't meet God first and keep our relationship right with him then we are pretty much at a lost.
Second is to our spouse we were created to be his help meet. There to pick up the extra slack, meet his needs and take care of him. Our husbands need to be made to feel special and we are the only ones who should be doing it.
Third your Children we are commanded to raise up our children in the way that they should go. They are gifts from God and entrusted to us no one else. It is our job as parents to make sure they have what they need.
Fourth the home, we as women are the climate of the home. If the husband comes home to a frantic house, everything is turned upside down, kids are running around, wife is yelling he is going to get all riled up too. The opposite is also true, we can make or break the evening in our homes, amazing how much power we can hold over the moods in our home.
Fifth yourself, I guess you were wondering were you fit in on this list. Well now you know. Being last doesn't mean you get forgotten, I have found in taking care of my time with God and my husband, my kids and my home I am taking care of me. That is who God created me to be. This is the season where I rock crying babies, kiss boo boos, wonder what mess I am coming to when I hear " mommy come look what I did''. One day there will be no need for kisses, or checking for monsters under the bed. So I don't want to miss it.
Lastly is the outside world, we are called to go and be disciples of every nation baptising them in the name of the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit. So go, but take care of your family and your self first because God gave you them first and in time you can go forth and conquer the world.
Monday, December 13, 2010
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Chivalry is not Dead
At least not in my house. My husband reminded me tonight that he is a rare breed of man and that I am a very lucky woman. He may not be the most romantic, sweep you off your feet kind of guy but it is the little everyday things that count. He takes care of me, wholly and fully and puts my needs and safety first which is hard to come by in a man these days.
While we are out walking he always walks on the street side, if we cannot walk side by side he will walk behind so he can " keep an eye on me". He still opens my door, dishes up my plate when we are out places ( sometimes even at home) pulls out my chair for me. No I do live in a fairy tale, he is just this wonderful.
The icing on the cake is the simple thoughtfulness of the little things like not making me get up to take him into work( we have only one car), he will just ride his bike since I am not used to getting up that early and really need my sleep. He goes above and beyond and is truly amazing and reminds me that chivalry is not dead.
When I mention this to him he just says this is how a husband is supposed to act. Be jealous, I am blessed, I know.
While we are out walking he always walks on the street side, if we cannot walk side by side he will walk behind so he can " keep an eye on me". He still opens my door, dishes up my plate when we are out places ( sometimes even at home) pulls out my chair for me. No I do live in a fairy tale, he is just this wonderful.
The icing on the cake is the simple thoughtfulness of the little things like not making me get up to take him into work( we have only one car), he will just ride his bike since I am not used to getting up that early and really need my sleep. He goes above and beyond and is truly amazing and reminds me that chivalry is not dead.
When I mention this to him he just says this is how a husband is supposed to act. Be jealous, I am blessed, I know.
Friday, December 10, 2010
The Toungue
Yes the tongue is a very powerful tool that we have been in trusted with, so often we speak with out thinking. We even say things intentionally to get a rise out of those close to us ( just a side note that is a sin in a big way it is causing them in incur anger, which is equal to murder, which is breaking a commandment and we are not supposed to cause our brothers to stumble). The tongue and the gift of speech is something we are entrusted with and we should be good stewards of.
So often our words can be used to strengthen someone else or build them up, just a kind word or compliment can change the day of a co worker or neighbor. Just knowing someone noticed them can change their day around.
Our words either tear someone down or build them up. Think before you make your next comment " what will this do to the person hearing this?" if it is not uplifting or for correction through love as led by the spirit it is better left unsaid. Start using God as you filter and let him do your talking for you and you will see the difference in others around you.
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Depression
I just want to start off by saying I am not a health care provider and I have no medical degree. Everything I am about to post is of my own opinion from personal experience or research I have done online or in books.
This may not be the best first blog but this is something that weighs heavily on my heart. I have struggled with depression all of my adult life. I have been both on anti-depressants and off in and out of counseling and a combination of the two. I have fibromyalgia so this will be the continuing pattern of my life. Such as the person I am I have done lots of research and keep on top of my moods and try and listen to my husband and others close to me with they say something needs to change. They know the red flags and we all have the same goals for me to be healthy.
Depression I think it it is taboo in some social circles, in my opinion, especially Christan apparently that is just not acceptable ( mind you I am not stating all, just some). Anti-depressants, under the supervision of a licenced Doctor sometimes are needed. Depression isn't just feeling down for a time. It is a lack of loving life. It is losing the want to function and do what God has designed you to do. Losing the joy in what you once loved. . It is sad that people have put such bad connotations with antidepressants that people fear getting help. Yes there are risks, but there are also risks for not getting help and at some point the benefits way out weigh the risks.
Anti depressants are not a cure all. They are best used coupled counseling so you can get to the root of the problems and learn coping techniques.
If left untreated depression can be fatal. Don't ignore the warning signs be willing to reach to a Friend and recognize when you need help. Don't do it for anyone but you, believe me your life is worth saving, one man on a cross thought so 2,000 years ago and nothing has changed.
This may not be the best first blog but this is something that weighs heavily on my heart. I have struggled with depression all of my adult life. I have been both on anti-depressants and off in and out of counseling and a combination of the two. I have fibromyalgia so this will be the continuing pattern of my life. Such as the person I am I have done lots of research and keep on top of my moods and try and listen to my husband and others close to me with they say something needs to change. They know the red flags and we all have the same goals for me to be healthy.
Depression I think it it is taboo in some social circles, in my opinion, especially Christan apparently that is just not acceptable ( mind you I am not stating all, just some). Anti-depressants, under the supervision of a licenced Doctor sometimes are needed. Depression isn't just feeling down for a time. It is a lack of loving life. It is losing the want to function and do what God has designed you to do. Losing the joy in what you once loved. . It is sad that people have put such bad connotations with antidepressants that people fear getting help. Yes there are risks, but there are also risks for not getting help and at some point the benefits way out weigh the risks.
Anti depressants are not a cure all. They are best used coupled counseling so you can get to the root of the problems and learn coping techniques.
If left untreated depression can be fatal. Don't ignore the warning signs be willing to reach to a Friend and recognize when you need help. Don't do it for anyone but you, believe me your life is worth saving, one man on a cross thought so 2,000 years ago and nothing has changed.
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